For me, a spacious life includes less rushing and more slowness. It is only in slowness that you can really breathe and be present.
I’ve worked hard over the past few months on reducing obligations to create space during my day and to reduce my technology use to create space in my mind.
I’m even slowly working on creating space in my home. I just completed a huge overhaul of my office closet, which has left me feeling lighter and more ready to tackle the next challenge.
I see this more spacious life on the horizon, but know I am not there yet. I have more work to do.
To find this freedom I crave, I need more control. I believe I need to regiment certain aspects of life to have even more opportunities to choose how I spend others. I believe I need to create solid routines, especially in the morning.
My Current Morning Routine
Routines have always been difficult for me and it became exponentially harder when I became a mother. I embraced the uncertainty of each day and am now more “go with the flow” than ever before.
This is difficult to admit, but I get up about 2 minutes before my daughter. My husband tells me it’s time. I pop out of bed and start trying to rouse the princess from her slumber. It’s go-go-go until they get out the door.
Then it’s time to work. More often than I prefer, I’m still in pajamas at lunch time because I went straight to my office. But there’s a huge contradiction here.
I know my most productive time is the morning and that being un-showered kills my productivity.
So why do I do this? I’m just trying to get enough sleep.
The problem originates on the other end. We stay up too late, often spending time together with our favorite shows and sometimes spending time alone on our computers.
Unfortunately, it sets the stage for a cycle of getting up just in the nick of time and losing any sense of focus on my own self-care.
To find more space, this has to change.
My Ideal Morning Routine
I’ve thought a lot about what needs to happen and am frankly intimidated by it. It needs to start the night before with a 10:30pm bedtime. I’d love to be in bed reading by 10, to unwind from the day.
This would help me realize the wake-up time of 5:30am that I believe would create the space I need.
I want to be able to wake up more slowly with a shower, coffee, and reading from my favorite blogs. I want to exchange pleasantries rather than half-asleep grumpies with my husband. I want to feel ready to face the day when it’s time to wake up my daughter, so I can do the best that I can to send her off ready too.
This isn’t the first time I’ve thought about this, but I’ve never taken action. I don’t have all the answers, but I’m ready.
Learning the Ropes
I can’t pretend this will be easy, but it’s not complicated.
My natural inclination is to spend a lot of time reading about morning routines. However, I know that research can be a crutch to avoid taking action.
I feel it’s more important to develop any morning routine that has me actually getting up at 5:30am before I learn how to make the most of it. In fact, iteration almost always creates better results than trying to create perfection from scratch.
I will begin though by asking to hear about you. Have you ever made a change like this? Have you successfully implemented a new routine? What does your morning look like?